By Brad Haire
University of Georgia
If your child is being bullied, you can do some things to help
stop it.
Everyone will be bullied sometime in his life, said Sharon
Gibson, a family and consumer science educator with the
University of Georgia Extension Service. And it will most likely
happen at school.
Bullying can come in many forms. It can include physical or
emotional abuse, damage to a child’s property, spreading
malicious rumors or forcing a child to do something he or she
doesn’t want to do.
A consistently bullied student can have emotional problems and
perform poorly in school. And if the bullying is physical, it
can take its toll on the student’s body.
Don’t ignore the problem. And don’t tell your child to ignore
the bully.
“When a child is bullied, he or she may feel angry, helpless or
deserted,” Gibson said. “If that child tells a teacher or parent
about the bullying, he or she needs to know it’s not tattling
and that speaking about it was the right thing.”
Keep your cool
Parents can become angry when they first learn their child is
being bullied. “Parents should stay calm and first find out if
their child is in any immediate physical danger,” she said.
The most important thing a parent can do is find a way to stop
the bullying. Ask for a meeting with the principal of your
child’s school. The principal can then determine if and when to
bring the child’s teacher or teachers into the conversation.
“Again, parents should stay calm. If they’re not, this could set
up a defensive action by school officials,” she said. “Parents
should be proactive but not demanding before they learn more
about the situation at school.”
Teachers and principals are trained to deal with issues like
bullying, she said. Parents should voice concerns but listen,
too.
Most schools have an action plan to deal with bully situations.
If the school doesn’t, the parent should offer to help develop a
plan.
The child doing the bullying should be given a chance to
reform.
The bullied child should have an adult contact at school to tell
if the bullying doesn’t stop. This person could be the teacher
or a paraprofessional.
Establish a code word
There is a lot going on in the average classroom, Gibson said.
Teachers
or paraprofessionals can have their hands full all day. It can
be tough to concentrate on one child.
Gibson recommends a code word be established for the bullied
child to use when he or she feels uncomfortable or in danger due
to bullying. This will inform the adult without the child having
to raise a hand or bring much attention.
The adult can then investigate or even witness the bullying.
Parents should follow up with the school to make sure steps are
in place to keep all children from being bullied.
Parents can also:
* Make sure the school has good monitoring.
* Keep records of bullying episodes and of any communication
with the school.
* Work with other parents in the neighborhood to make sure
children are supervised and feel safe.
At home, parents should encourage good social skills and
behavior. They should help their child find his or her talents
and praise accomplishments, she said.
“A confident, assertive child is less likely to be the target of
a bully,” she said.
